No
one ever said long distance relationships were easy, but they don’t have to be
so hard either. They don’t have to ruin your relationship; neither do they have
to be the end of it. Distance makes the heart grow fonder and sincerely that’s
one of the truest statements in existence. Here are 6 ways to make a long distance relationship work.
Stay in
Contact
A lot of people
miss the point of this and believe this means you have to talk every single day
the two of you are apart, but the truth is it depends. What are you and your
partner comfortable with? Talk about it. The point of staying in contact is to
nurture the emotional connection between the two of you. You and your partner
should define what ‘staying in contact’ is for the two of you and how best to
do it based on what the two of you are comfortable with.
Remember
That Your Partner is Human
Distance makes
the heart grow fonder, but unfortunately you grow so fond of your partner that
you begin to idealize him/her and forget that they are human. No one is
perfect, they are going to have tough days and might not be able to talk to you
as much or as enthusiastically as they once did. Don’t be so afraid of this and
don’t think the relationship is over because of this. Be understanding, be
supportive, be a listening ear and be there for them. Give them what they need,
even if what they need is sometime on their own to deal with things.
Don’t
Be Afraid
There is no
relationship that can survive without trust. Honestly, a long distance
relationship is a true test of trust because in that period you have to believe
in the person you say you love and trust them to be good. Pray for them if it
makes you feel more comfortable (that is, if you are the religious type) but by
all means learn to trust them. Stop thinking every change in their attitude,
voice or mein is because they are tired of you or the relationship. Such fear
isn’t good for your blood pressure, heart rate and general well-being.
Visit
Each Other
If there are
opportunities for the two of you to visit each other, then do so as often as
you can but it should be as agreed between the two of you. If there is no
opportunity for the two of you to visit each other, then you two should do
things together at the same time. You two can do so over apps or softwares like
Facetime, Skype etc. This is done to promote bonding and basically just to see
each other. This largely helps to deal with loneliness in the relationship on
both ends.
Make
Each Other Feel Special
The lovely thing
about long distance relationships aside the fact that they can make you grow
fonder, is that they help you become more attentive to the little things in
your relationship. Just doing little things like surprising your partner with a
sweet message, ordering something nice for your partner online etc. can help
you make each other feel very special and keep the fire burning in your
relationship.
Manage
Your Expectations
As much as you
remain positive, also be realistic. Long distance relationships can fail, then
again what relationship can’t fail? You should understand that every kind of
relationship needs work, dedication and attention, so you should invest these
in your relationship. Prepare yourself for bumps along the road, but never fear
them. You can talk about it with your partner and prepare yourself to avoid or
navigate through possible bumps along the way. In the end, the challenges can
contribute to a better relationship; it just depends on how the two of you
manage it.
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