Is he a boy, or is he a
man? Unfortunately, far too many of the male species on the dating market fall
short of the mark: just because he has the years to his name doesn’t mean that
he’s earned his manly stripes. “Manning up” doesn’t just mean being macho,
lifting heavy things, and taking out the trash when it’s full; it means
treating the woman you’re with with the respect that she deserves. In fact, one
of the most boyish things that a guy can do is cheat; and here are all the
reasons why.
1. Real men communicate
If a man’s sex life is
lacking or unfulfilled in some way, a real man understands how to appropriately
communicate that with his partner so that he gets what he needs while
maintaining his current relationship. Real men talk about their issues rather
than let them go unspoken until these issues boil over into something much
larger than they were in the first place.
2. Real
men keep their eyes on the prize
A real
man knows what’s important in life and knows how to deal with his business in
order to achieve those important things. His relationship with the woman he
loves is a crucial piece to this, and any real man understands how to do what
he has to do to keep this relationship vibrant and healthy… including not
cheating.
3. Real men know stability
Emotional stability only
comes to those mature enough to discuss their feelings and deal with them in
an appropriate way. A proper outlet might be sports, martial arts, or
painting… but definitely not the girl next door. Real men know how to keep
themselves emotionally healthy and exercise what they must do in order to
achieve this stability.
4. Real men exhibit
willpower
Keeping it in your pants is a fundamental precept of growing up.
While sexual desires and urges are completely natural, a real man knows when to
keep his fantasy life inside his own head. Exhibiting the willpower necessary
to do this is a skill that any real man will cultivate within himself.
5. Real men don’t add
notches to their belts
Sexual encounters just to have sexual encounters are one
thing, but real men don’t indulge in sex simply to tell the story after.
This is equally true of checking off some kind of sexual escapades “hit
list”. Real men know that sex is more than just a physical act; that the
emotional connotations can be numerous and far-reaching. Real men treat
this act with the respect that it deserves.
6. Real
men aren’t in it for the booty
While a
hook-up is one thing, a real man wouldn’t get involved with a woman that he
doesn’t love or believe that he might one day grow to love. Women are not
objects; and real men know that they shouldn’t be treated as such. Cheating
objectifies both the woman you are with, and the woman you are supposed to be
with.
7. Real men show
graciousness
Cheating is a selfish act that shows you putting yourself before
someone you supposedly love. Real men don’t do that; they take care of those
around them before they take care of themselves. While it’s important to
maintain yourself and keep yourself happy, it’s doubly important to make those
around you happier still.
8. Real men don’t hurt
women
Doing harm to a woman is
not how your mother raised you and cheating is hurting a woman you supposedly
love. Chivalry is not dead; it just lives on in the men who keep it alive.
Think of how much harm you are doing; what if that harm were physical? Real men
don’t abuse women; and cheating amounts to emotional abuse.
9. Real men have guts
If cheating is a consideration on your mind, then you clearly have
some trouble with the relationship you’re in and you need to work some things
out for yourself. A real man would have the guts to cut things off with their
current partner to work out their own issues without letting fear get in their
way.
10. Real men understand respect
When you cheat, you lie. When you lie, you break the trust of a
woman who deserves better. If she has given you the privilege of her company,
she deserves the respect that is due. Your partner is not just a lover but also
a friend and, most importantly, a human being. Real men would show her the
respect she deserves.
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