Blogger Linda Ikeji has finally revealed the father of her baby Jayce to be Sholaye Jeremi, a man she claimed she met in 2015.
The celebrity media girl shared this on her blog. Read her statement below:
The celebrity media girl shared this on her blog. Read her statement below:
Two days before my 38th
birthday on September 17th, I welcomed my first child, my son, Jayce. I look at
him and I wonder why I waited so long to have a child. I’ve never known love
like this. I literally have tears in my eyes every time I look at him. I can’t
believe he came out of me. He is by far my greatest blessing and I’m looking
forward to navigating him through life!
Now to the reason why you are reading this. I argued with myself
for a long time whether to put this out or not…and finally decided it was a
story I wanted to share. I've always been open about my life but I'm sharing
details about my personal life mostly because of the girls who look up to me.
The girls I have mentored, mentoring right now and plan to mentor in the
future. I’m very particular about our young girls and I have personally tried
over the years to be an example in some way; tried to teach these girls how to
fight for their dreams, how to live right and do right and then I go and have a
child out of wedlock and that must be a little confusing to some of them and
especially with so many untruthful stuff out there about me. The most hilarious
is that I had a child for a married man. Lol. Here’s my answer to that! The
married man that I will sleep with has not yet been born. If he’s been born, he
will die, be buried, rise and die again before he will lay with me. I don’t do
married men. The father of my child is a single man and his name is Sholaye
Jeremi. To be honest, at some point I thought he was my final bus stop but you
know how life happens...lol. Unfortunately he and I are a completely closed
chapter. Sadly for our son Jayce, it’s the kind of chapter that can’t ever be
opened again.
One of the things many people have asked me is how I met this man
because we don’t run in the same circle. Well, I met him 3 years ago at
Wheatbaker Restaurant in Ikoyi in December 2015 shortly after I moved to my
home in Banana Island, Ikoyi. It was a day after Christmas and I was having
dinner with friends when he walked in. He saw me and the rest is history. He
claimed at the time that he had never heard of me which was seriously a turn-on
for me because up until then I’d only been meeting men who behaved like fans.
At the time we met, I was 35 and he was 37 and I’d been single for nearly 4 years.
I was definitely searching and I fell in love almost immediately and so we
became an item.
At the time I met him he lived in a 3-bedroom flat at what used to
be 5th roundabout in Lekki
after Mobil. I used to drive for almost two hours in traffic from my house to
go see him. Most of the time, I carried my laptop to his home to enable me to
work and at the same time spend the whole day with him.
It was a whirlwind romance. He was the funniest and most romantic
guy I’d met up until that point, so it was easy to fall in love and I truly
believed the feeling was mutual. A few weeks after we met, it seemed like we
were planning a future together. This man was already calling me Linda Ikeji
Jeremi and making all these plans but then just like that, it was over between
us. I went from waking up every morning to love text messages from him to no
more calls. I was just thanking God for finally sending me my own man when all
of a sudden we were no longer talking to each other. Later he would tell me
what scared him off. My public life. He claims he’s a private business man and
didn’t want the attention being with me would bring to him and I told him I
understood and we went our separate ways. We tried to get back together in 2016
but it didn't work out so much so we separated again but stayed in touch
(mostly him to be honest), stayed friends and that was how our back and forth
started.
By mid-2017, we were both still single and we started seeing each
other again quietly. There were times it was very intense and we talked about a
future together, and there were times that I couldn’t figure out what exactly I
was doing with this guy. We were not suited for each other. Totally different
lifestyles. And there was the problem of my fame. I walked away from this man a
million times and he came after me a million and one times. No matter how much
I pushed him away, he kept coming back and me, because I couldn’t find anyone
else, I kept going back. Lol. So I was basically going back to my ex because I
couldn’t find anyone else. *sigh*.
Then I fell pregnant. It wasn’t planned, it just happened; though
we talked about having a child together just two months before I fell pregnant.
He said something about putting a billionaire baby inside me and I remember
jokingly telling him that I’m also a billionaire so our child was going to be a
billionaire on both side...and we laughed. But after I fell pregnant, things
became extremely weird between us. If I tried to explain what happened, I
wouldn’t be able to because it was confusing to me. We went from talking about
the pregnancy and being okay with it; he even suggested I go to Dubai for my
pre-natals as he didn’t trust doctors in Nigeria, to literally not talking to
each other anymore. Around when I was about three months pregnant, he did come
to see my parents and actually became very cool with my dad. They were
literally exchanging Whatsapp messages every day. He later agreed to a
traditional wedding which he didn’t follow through and then he switched. He
began to treat me with so much hate and aggression that I and my family had to
cut him off completely.
To be honest if anybody had told me when we met three years ago,
considering how deeply we cared for each other that I would fall pregnant two
years later and he would completely turn his back on me for most part of my
pregnancy, I never would have believed it but that’s what happened. I had to
draw strength from myself, my family and close friends.
And Jayce...oh my son Jayce, he was my biggest strength. It was
almost as if he knew his dad was acting up so he came through for his mum. He
was gentle with me when I was carrying him. I had an extremely easy pregnancy.
I pushed him out under 3 mins and was in the labour room for less than 30
minutes. And then my snapback was amazing. Three weeks later, it was almost as
if I’d never been pregnant. Jayce was my soldier when his dad turned his back.
But still, I have absolutely no iota of regret meeting Sholaye.
Gosh, have you seen Jayce? How can I regret that? God doesn’t make mistakes. If
you believe that you’re always led by God like I believe then I have to believe
that God led me to this man for whatever reasons best known to Him. I thought
God sent him as my life partner but I guess He just used him as a vessel for my
greatest blessing. Now his part in my story is over. I know when to put my
hands up and surrender. That God brought someone significant into your life
doesn’t mean they are supposed to follow you throughout your life’s journey. We
should learn to know when people’s part in our story is over. Don’t fight for
closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, just let them go and
know that if God meant for you to have them in your life, He would have given
them to you. Sometimes people just come to serve a purpose in your life and are
not meant to stay and there’s no point holding on to them. This one is done and
dusted. It’s just Jayce and I now moving forward and I know life will be
beautiful for us.
Being a single mum wasn’t the dream I had for myself; I’d prayed
for the kind of happy home my parents built for us (they’ve been together for
40 years). Nothing is more important to me than family. For years I’d hammered
on how much I was looking forward to getting married, having children and
building my own family and I believed God was going to come through for me on
that one, but I have come to understand that we have no control over what life
throws at us no matter how much we plan, pray, or work. And we also have no
control over the actions of other people towards us. One of the things I have
learnt in my life’s journey is that your idea of how life should go might be
different from the way life actually goes. It’s called Life Happening.
Sometimes it unfolds into something we never dreamed of but because we don’t
recognize the route we find ourselves on our journey through life, doesn’t mean
God won’t get us to our destination. Remember, an uncertain chapter doesn’t
ruin the whole book. Life will happen whether we are ready or not. All we can
do is keep our heads up and keep moving.
Family and close friends told me I owed no one any explanation
about the circumstances that led to the birth of my son, but I knew without
writing this, I could never stand in front of the young girls who look up to me
and talk to them again. I could never go on my secondary school tour and speak
with these girls again about living right and doing right. I would always feel
like I have no moral right to do so. I went to 15 secondary schools in 2017 and
talking to those young impressionable girls has been one of the highlights of
my life. I cancelled this year’s tour because I was pregnant and I haven’t made
any preparations for next year’s tour because I wanted to set things right
first.
I have so many plans for young girls next year and in the coming
years with the Selfmade finance and mentorship projects with international
collaborations, so this was important for me to do, to explain myself to the
young girls who look up to me and feel disappointed that I got pregnant and had
a baby out of wedlock. For years, I have preached decency, morality and
uprightness and despite what happened to me, I mean it from the bottom of my
heart. That should be the only way to live. That’s the only way I live. Don’t
ever compromise your values. With this, I was led by my heart and my clock
ticking and even though I have no regrets, I’m sorry if I let any of you ladies
down by the decision I made, and I hope you learn from my experience. I hope
you do better than I did. The ideal thing would be to find a man you love, who
loves you back and gives you stability, get married, have kids and raise a
family, not being a single mum or a baby mama. I was 37 years old at the time I
conceived and if I want to be honest, my age played a role in me allowing
myself to be pregnant out of wedlock. I don’t want to be having kids in my 40s
or struggling with fertility later in life. This wasn’t the plan but like I
said before, life happens. You just have to find a way to make the best of what
life throws at you. And so for any young girl this means anything to, I am
truly sorry. I am not sorry I had Jayce, I’m just sorry I didn’t go about it
the right way.
But you know, despite this crazy love experience, I still believe
in love and I believe in happy endings and I can’t wait to one day, God
willing, have my fairy tale ending. The father of my child is the only man I’ve
given a chance to in 6 years. Lol. I swear. I’m not really a relationship kind
of girl. I’m more a career girl. I can go for years without a man. I’m one of
those women who don’t need a man to validate their existence but biko, I’ve
done the single life enough in the past…lol… going forward I’m looking forward
to giving someone else a chance and try this love thing again. I was raised in
a happy 2-parents’ home and that’s what I want for Jayce. So I hope I meet a
great guy soon until then I’m enjoying motherhood. It rocks! Life has never
been more beautiful!
I’d also like to address a few other issues. Number one is this
celibacy issue. So many people have trolled me over it and I’d like to correct
the misunderstanding. I have never ever in my life said people shouldn’t have
sex before marriage. NEVER EVER have I said that. I have even argued with quite
a few people that it is not feasible in this day and age. What
I have always said and I maintain till today is; Do not ever sleep with men for
money because any woman with a brain and determination can get her own money
herself. And there’s nothing sweeter than your own money. I am 38 years old and
I recently bought a N100million+ car; what the heck do you need to be sleeping
with a man for? For designer bags, first class tickets and luxury holidays?
GTFOH with sleeping with a man for rent money! You can give yourself all that
and more if you apply yourself, fight for your dream and work your butt off.
Men don’t have the exclusive right to create wealth; women can also create
wealth. Money is not male. Wealth is not male. Success is not male. We women
just need to believe in ourselves more and get off our butts and stop relying
on our looks and charm instead of our brain, mind, will, and our God given
talent/gift. We can be rich, we can be successful, we can break barriers, do
what was formerly termed impossible, do what men can do, be CEOs of
conglomerates and billionaires without ever having to lie on our backs. Please
ladies, we are powerful beyond measure and can do anything and be anything we
want to be.
The other thing
I’ve always said is; do not sleep around with multiple men who just use your
body for their pleasure; that is; too many one night stands, casual sex, many
sex partners in a short period of time all in the name of relationships. Your
body deserves better. I feel sex should only happen when you’re in a loving,
committed relationship with someone you love. I was celibate for many years
until I met my son’s father and fell in love. And instead of increasing my body
count, I just went back to the same eggplant…lol. My mistake was I should have
walked away when the relationship became a waste...lol... but then again, Jayce
wouldn’t be here today if I had. So really, there’s nothing that I have
preached that I didn’t practice. So you guys stop trolling me over this abeg!
Lol.
Thank you for reading and thank you for your understanding.
Love and kisses to you and yours
Hugs
Linda
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