This is a debate that
will continue to go on till the world will comes to an end because everybody
have their own views and ideology on what should be the cost of a girl losing
her virginity.
Many of us even tend to
forget that boys are born as virgins
because once we hear the word virgins
we quickly assume they should be talking about a girl. This is why in a
relationship most girls never ask their boyfriends if they are virgins
especially if the boy is older than the girl, she just assumes that he is not a
virgin, some are even of the opinion that they are no virgin boys but that is a
story for another day.
I recently read it on a website where a guy was complaining about how some girls cheaply give away their
virginity, he was like some girls lose their virginity over a bottle of Malt and biscuits while some lose it base on just promises, empty promises as a
matter of fact and it was this that got me thinking like I normally like to do.
While thinking a question came to my mind which I’m going to ask you people too
maybe we can share the same view or probably you still need to educate me more
on this issue, should there be an actual cost of losing one’s virginity?
The first answer I came
up with was the fact that no amount can or should be placed on a girl’s virginity,
I feel it is more of a personal decision than a monetary or material decision.
I mean how much do you think should be placed on a girl’s virginity, you can’t
say for sure because there is no measurement or no yardstick in which we can
use to measure the worth. The vagina of every girl remains the same until it's are deflowered before you can start to quantify it (pardon me for sounding raw), so prior to them been deflowered how do you want to measure their virginity to
say this one should cost higher than the other. This is why I think it is wrong
to say girls’ gives out their virginity cheaply because the vagina actually has
no price tag so how can we say something that has no price tag is cheap. I feel
if a girl wants to give out her virginity, it should be a personal decision by
her and nobody else because only she knows what she intend to gain when she gives
it out. I also feel that girls shouldn’t be enticed by what a guy that is
persuading them for sex is offering because no matter what guys might be
offering your virginity has no price tag which means it is not for sale. You
should only give it out if and only if you feel you need and want to.
The second answer I got
was that probably the real cost of virginity should be marriage. Let look at
from this angle, we all know that sex before marriage is a sin yet most of us
practice it including me (may God forgive us our sins) but have we really asked
ourselves why this is so? It has been said that we shouldn’t engage in pre-marital sex and there have been a lot of reason for this which I am not going to
go into. It is not stated in any scripture or constitution that a certain price
should be paid for a girl’s virginity but I am of the opinion that if we are
going to attach a price tag to a girl’s virginity then it should be marriage
because that is the only platform where sex is allowed and encouraged according to the Holy books. I mean
as a guy if you want to have sex with a girl whom you claim you truly love then
I think marrying her shouldn’t be a big price to pay and for girls, if a guy
wants to know how much it will cost to deflower you simply tell him it will
cost marriage.
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