For Couples: Things To Make Your Relationship Happier

I have a lot of people complaining about their relationships, complaining about how unhappy they are, wishing they could do better , well not to worry I cover you like D’Banj says.

I did some personal research and I was able to come up with some facts that help make you happier in your relationship this 2016 and here they are;

1.      Talk, Text and Sext (T.T.S)

Communication is a very effective tool to a healthy relationship and once you can have a regular communication with your partner then you are good to go. According to a research by US psychology university professors, they found out that couples who sexted each other that is sending sexually explicit or suggestive texts or photos to each other are more sexually satisfied than those who don’t.  The professors found a robust relationship between sexting and relationship happiness, so if you don’t sext you better start now if you want that happy relationship.

2.      Be Affectionate

The more you touch each other (non-sexually), the happier your relationship will be. In 2015, research from Arizona State University found physical affection makes us feel less stressed, improves mood generally and kick starts production of serotonin, the ‘feel-good’ hormone.

3.      Choose Your Friends Carefully

This is another big aspect of having a happier relationship because if your friends don’t like your partner, the chances of you being less committed, trusting and sexually communicative are high. You are also likely to be more aggressive in the relationship than those whose friends do approve of their partner choice. Don’t stop seeing your friends just because you have found someone. According to a surveys that was done last year, the happiest long-term couples saw friends and did things apart as well as together.

4.      Money Matters

I know many of you would be saying yes na money sure pass but trust me for a happier relationship it doesn’t matter how much your partners has but what matters the most is how you manage it. It’s not the amount of money each of you have that predict the success of your relationship, its how you manage it. Managing finances requires maturity, being able to resist instant gratification and planning for the future: all are also good relationship skills..

5.      Don’t Try To Turn Your Partner Into A Mini-me

According to David Richo an essential ingredient for a great relationship, is acceptance. Rather than berate your partner for not doing something/thinking something/behaving in a way you wouldn’t, accept that they’re different and allow them to be. We all have positive and negative qualities so always try to accept your partner for who they are.

6.      Say Thank You

Even amongst friends appreciation is key so as so it is for a happier relationship. Being grateful and expressing this with a simple Thank you can transform your relationship. Saying thank you regularly also reduces the amount a couple argue or how they argue.

7.      Have Sex Once A Week

According to a research by Social Psychological and Personality Science if you are having sex once a week anything else is simply icing on the cake. Even more interestingly, this applied to pretty much every group regardless of age, gender, married or living together and those in long or short term relationships. So don’t let anybody deceive you that having sex everyday is what keeps the relationships going once you can meet the target of having sex once in a week then you are on the road path to a happier relationship.

8.      Do Interesting Things

This is one aspect that is seriously lacking in a typical Naija relationship. Instead of always cuddling up every cosy night, do something more exciting like play a game. Just make sure you avoid the same old routine and do something fresh and different once a week.

9.      Don’t Hold Grudges

If something has upset you, talk about it, explain why, get some reassurance that it won’t happen again and just let it go. Any conversation that includes this reminds me of the time you,  is never going to be a good idea. Always learn to forgive, forget and move on or better still if forgetting would be difficult, forgive, move on and don’t bring it up.