Don't do these things if you want to be successful in life: read below
1. Making Excuses
Stop blaming other people
for why you don’t get what you want. Stop refusing to accept responsibility for
your mistakes. You make your own choices and you make your own mistakes.In general,
stop justifying your poor choices and stop attributing your lack of success to
things outside of your control. Successful people don’t do this.
You are going to err. You
are going to fail. When this inevitably occurs look within, in a non-judgmental
manner, and figure out what you can do better next time. Don’t waste time
looking externally by creating excuses for why you didn’t achieve success.
2. Focusing on the Negatives
Yes, there are negative
circumstances in life that you have no control over. There are also plenty of
positive experiences in your life. I am willing to bet you have more positives
in your life than negatives. You are capable of living with a positive
perspective. If you want to cultivate success in your life than you need to concentrate
on all the good. You shouldn’t disregard the negative, but you don’t have to
give it so much of your attention. Otherwise you are never going to be
satisfied because you are so focused on the unfavorable conditions of your
life. Even if you reach a level of ostensible success, your continued focus on
the negatives will prevent you from relishing your accomplishments.
3. Fearing Failure
There is no reason to
fear failure. Rather, you should embrace it. Learn from it, and ultimately
improve from it.
When you are successful
you know you are always trying your best. When you fail it is not a reflection
of you as a person; you are not a flawed individual. View failure as an
opportunity to grow, not as something to be feared.
4. Looking for the Easy Way
I want to preface by
stating that attaining success isn’t supposed to be an improbable venture where
you have to overcome a certain amount of adversity and hardship. I am opining
that successful people don’t look for the easy way through life.
Merely strolling through
life on cruise control is not the blueprint for success. You need to challenge
yourself at times. Push yourself and stretch your limits. Aim to reach your
maximum potential, and then go beyond that. That is a success in itself.
5. Beating Yourself Up
You wouldn’t ever beat
yourself up physically so why would you do it emotionally and mentally?
Learning how to skillfully deal with your thoughts and emotions when you are
facing adverse situations is crucial to being successful.
Get upset over things.
Express your emotions in an appropriate manner. Be unhappy from time to time.
It is going to happen. But don’t ruminate over unpleasant memories and beat
yourself up over things that already occurred. Too much time and energy spent
on this diverts your attention away from more important endeavors like
progressing toward your goals.
6. Being Ungrateful
The best way to establish
more contentment in your life is to be more grateful. If you want to push away
happiness, joy, and bliss than be ungrateful. Gratitude breeds happiness
but it also breeds success. If you are grateful for your life and everything
that comprises it you are going to have a less complicated time attaining
wealth and accomplishing your goals.
I don’t just mean
financial wealth because wealth includes all kinds of valuables. I am not
proposing that all financially wealthy people are grateful, and therefore,
successful, or that all financially poor people are ungrateful, and therefore
unsuccessful.
Being ungrateful is not
congruent with getting ahead in life. If you crave success than observe
everything you are grateful for. Your gratitude will serve as a compass for
your life. It will guide your decision-making, and lead you to success.
7. Concentrating Solely on Your Needs
Hopefully this goes
without saying but focusing only on yourself is not going to help you attain
success. You could be the wealthiest person on the planet, and it is apparent
that you are extremely successful. If you accrued your wealth by taking
advantage of people, or by being selfish and egotistical, you are not
successful in my book. You probably wouldn’t be very happy either. The best way
to succeed in life is by helping someone else!
8. Getting Distracted
You were going to start
your book but…You were going to launch your dream business idea but…You were
going to travel through Asia but…
I get it. Things come up. Life takes you on a different course. It happens sometimes. But don’t allow yourself to become distracted from realizing your dreams. When distractions obstruct you from your passions than you are moving further and further away from claiming your ultimate successes.
I get it. Things come up. Life takes you on a different course. It happens sometimes. But don’t allow yourself to become distracted from realizing your dreams. When distractions obstruct you from your passions than you are moving further and further away from claiming your ultimate successes.
This starts with your
daily life. It is fun and often necessary to log onto Facebook and check
emails, but don’t allow the modern technological age to prevent you from the
work that needs to be finished today. Success is based on working toward your
goals while not letting disruptions hinder that.
9. Living Aimlessly
It is your responsibility
to ascertain your life goals and objectives. Being successful means you are
fulfilling your life’s purpose every day.
Whether your purpose is super ambitious such as solving world hunger or more feasible like being happy, doesn’t matter. The point is that you are aiming to be the best you can be. Steadily wandering through life without any ambitions or without contributing anything to society is not what successful people do.
Whether your purpose is super ambitious such as solving world hunger or more feasible like being happy, doesn’t matter. The point is that you are aiming to be the best you can be. Steadily wandering through life without any ambitions or without contributing anything to society is not what successful people do.
10. Giving Up
When you face an
improbable obstacle in life how do you respond? Do you give up, or do you keep
pressing on? Successful people don’t give up. They commit themselves to
reaching their final destination. They may not ever get there, but they don’t
allow impediments to prevent them from trying. This means continuing on despite
failures and disappointments.
Success encompasses a lot
of different arenas. What works for financial success may not translate into
relationship success. Being successful as an athlete doesn’t necessarily make
you successful as a student as well. There are varying degrees of success
depending on what situation you are in.
Regardless, the
fundamental backbone of success is trying your best. If you put forth your best
effort, without harming others in the process, than you are a successful
person. This can apply to work, family, friends, relationships, hobbies, etc.
As the late great John Wooden said, “Success is peace of mind which is a direct
result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you
are capable of becoming.” I think that sums it up beautifully.
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