The most important thing about any relationship is that love is
the common denominator and that past issues or concerns are
not getting in the way and hurting the current relationship. If you still have doubts about your partner, Here are 20 signs you
have a perfect boyfriend.
1. He listens to you.
First
and foremost, we all want to be heard. We want our values, opinions and beliefs
to be validated. Even if they aren’t agreed with, we want them to be
respected. The qualities of a perfect boyfriend would definitely include
listening to what you have to say. He calls you just to hear your voice, or
texts you throughout the day to find out what is going on in your life because
he truly cares.
2. He really is that into you.
This
doesn’t mean that he is obsessed with you and is always blowing up your phone
or constantly contacting you. It really means that he is interested, intrigued
and enamored by you. His actions just visibly reflect that. When
your boyfriend realises that his life is better with you and he wants you
in it every day, then it is time to recognize the relationship could grow into
something more. He wants to spend time with you, he tells you how awesome you
are, and he is not afraid to be honest with his feelings for you.
3. He talks about his feelings and emotions.
Even
though society sometimes gives us the impression that all men need to be
hard, emotionless, or “strong”; the real men out there let their guard down to
the ones that mean the most to them. Real men talk about their feelings and
emotions. There is nothing wrong with men articulating their feelings or
emotions, especially to someone they spend a lot of time with. Once
you have a deeper intimacy with your boyfriend, you know he is in it for the
long haul. He shares his past, his fears, his wants, and his desires with you.
When he talks about serious topics with you, he is not afraid to love or to
tell you how he loves you.
4. He accepts all of you.
This
might me one of the most important aspects in any relationship. Your
boyfriend does not want to change you. He accepts your good and your not
so good. He lifts you up and lets you know that you are perfect in his eyes.
You know you have a perfect boyfriend when you know they
are not trying to change you, or manipulate and influence you to become
someone you are not. He tells you how pretty you are. He even tells you that he
likes the things you hate about yourself.
5. He supports ‘you’ time.
Being
in a relationship takes up a large part of your life. However, your
relationship should not take up 100% of your time. Everyone has their own
special interests and hobbies in life. The perfect boyfriend supports you
doing things on your own or with your best friends. He embraces time apart
as much as he embraces time together. He knows that each of your lives can
remain balanced while in the relationship. He even texts to tell you to have an
amazing time with your friends, or he calls to say he can’t wait to see you
soon.
6. He is interested in what you enjoy.
He is
truly interested in what you enjoy doing, or what you like most in life.
It does not mean that he has to love everything you love, or do everything that
you do. You may be into music, but he loves art – and that is perfectly fine.
He really wants to know what excites you and makes you feel alive in life so
that he can support your happiness.
7. He makes you laugh.
They
always say that laughter really is the best medicine. Not every boyfriend has
to be a professional comedian, but a perfect boyfriend does have a good sense
of humor. He is playful and likes to joke around with you every once in a
while. He might do silly things only with you. You two might even have
endearing little names for each other too.
8. He is independent.
The
perfect boyfriend provides for himself, lives on his own, and takes pride in
being an independent and contributing member of society. It is never fun to go
on a ‘date’ and be the one picking up the tab all the time. A perfect boyfriend
is also someone you know could possibly be a good husband in the future. If he
has his own independence, he can already provide for himself – and maybe his
future family too.
9. He fully trusts you.
Trust
is the basis of all strong and meaningful relationships. If trust is not
present in any relationship, chances are it will not last long. Trust is
essential. If you have trust there is no jealousy or insecurities. Most
relationships that include jealousy stem from past relationship patterns that
were not healthy. These negative qualities sometimes get carried over into
the next relationship. A perfect boyfriend would not be texting or calling
every hour to find out where you are when you are not together. We all get a
little insecure and jealous sometimes, but the ideal man does not let it
get the best of him and it does not affect your relationship at all.
10. He always has your back.
Life
includes ups and down, good parts and bad parts. No matter what each of you are
going through, you are there to support each other. A perfect boyfriend would
definitely be one that stands by you through the good and the bad. He’ll be by
your side in any tough situation you might be going through in life. He is
there to support you and to lift you up. He is there for you through good
and bad, encouraging you to keep going even if you fall. He is your teammate,
your cheerleader, and the one that makes your life better each and every day.
11. He doesn’t avoid conflict.
If
something is bothering him or there is an issue, he does not avoid addressing
it. He is able to share his own thoughts and feelings freely in a positive way.
We all have things that bother us. The perfect boyfriend would share those
issues instead of letting them build up inside until they come out later
in a negative way. The stronger the communication is with your boyfriend,
the better your chances of working through issues as they arise.
12. He makes plans with you.
The
perfect boyfriend calls you, texts you, checks in with you often and suggests
things to do. He also makes plans with you. He wants to spend his time with
you. If you are always the one initiating the communication or making plans to
see each other, maybe he is not the best match for you.
13. He is thoughtful.
You
don’t have to be necessarily romantic to be thoughtful. Although, that is a
great quality to have as well. Being thoughtful could be something simple like
bringing you food when you are sick, or doing something sweet to
cheer you up when you are having a bad day. He plans for special events because
he truly wants you to feel loved by him. The perfect boyfriend considers your
feelings and his reactions reflect his thoughtfulness.
14. He cooks for you.
Society
also likes to portray that the woman should always cook. It’s the
21st century. We are no longer living in Leave
It To Beaver-land. This doesn’t mean he cooks all the time, but hopefully he
has a dish or two he has perfected. Maybe he is a master on the grill. There is
something sexy about a man taking the time to cook something just for the two
of you. It is also another outward act of his feelings for you.
15. His actions match his words.
If we
don’t have our word, what do we have? Honesty is a virtue and the perfect
boyfriend will embody that. When he says he will call you at 9pm; he does. When
he says you are going to hang out this upcoming weekend; you do. When he makes
promises to you; he keeps them. If you are consistently being let down by your
boyfriend telling you one thing but doing another, chances are he is not the
perfect one for you.
16. He includes you with his family and
friends.
Being
introduced to family and friends might come later in the relationship, but if
you are in a long-term relationship and you have not yet met his close friends
or family, he might not be the one. The perfect boyfriend really wants you
to meet his friends and family because he enjoys spending time with you. He
enjoys being around you so much he wants everyone he cares about to know
about you and get to know you personally.
17. He shows affection.
This is
an important aspect. This does not mean you have to make-out with your
boyfriend in every public place possible, but it does mean when you are out in
public he enjoys holding your hand, or putting his arm around you and showing
you affection. Affection is an important part of any relationship. The perfect
boyfriend will outwardly show his love for you with affection. He will also
tell you how amazing you look and how much he loves that dress on you. There is
no criticism of the way you look, just complete adoration.
18. He respects you.
This
should be a no-brainer, but sadly there are many relationships lacking the
basic foundation of respect. The perfect boyfriend would never, ever attempt to
push, hit, or lay a hand on you. He would never scream and yell at you all the
time or call you horrible names. There would never be a valid reason for that
to ever happen! Going through epic fights and then making up later is not an
example of true love. The perfect boyfriend is able to control his anger and
work through his issues so that they are never taken out on you. He adores you.
He would be so upset if anything were to happen to you. He admires you deeply
and will treat you the best way he knows how.
19. He is willing to compromise.
If
everyone agreed with each other all of the time, the world would be a boring
place. The perfect boyfriend compromises on issues or making plans because he
wants the relationship to work. If you are always doing what your boyfriend
wants to do, and nothing that you have ever suggested, then your boyfriend is
not willing to compromise. This is especially important regarding holidays and
family situations. When your boyfriend compromises, you definitely know that he
is considering your feelings instead of only his own.
20. He shows sympathy.
When
something serious is going on in your life and you are having a really hard
time, he consoles you. If your dog dies, he is there. If something happens to
your family, he is there. Unfortunately, bad things will happen in life and the
perfect boyfriend will be by your side through all of it. Even if he isn’t sure
what to say, he is there supporting you, holding your hand, and letting you cry
on his shoulder. If he can see that you are visibly upset about something, he
will ask you to talk about it and not dismiss your feelings.
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