It is a known fact that
schools as well as several learning institutions around the country offer
formal education to their attendees. However, while this kind of education
garnered is considered essential for survival in the labour market, the
education it offers fails in comparison with the knowledge that our parents,
especially mothers, impress upon us as we grow in the family unit.
Each mother is different and has unique teaching skills; however,
the way Nigerian mothers dish out their own lessons can be quite exceptional
and there are certain lessons that most of them almost always teach their
wards. From moments of laughter, tears - from the endless hidings, lessons
about life, strength, and more, Here are 6 lessons every
Nigerian mothers teach.
Sign language
Sign
language is officially for people with hearing disabilities, however most
Nigerian children would probably score an A in any sign language exam as their
mothers tutor and equip them with the skill from a young age. Nigerian mothers
always communicate through their unique sign language. If she suddenly stops in
the hallway and stares at you, make sure you instantly try to remember what
chore or errand is left hanging. Also, when offered sweets/food during a
courtesy visit, it is wise to look in the direction of your mother and receive
the “it-is-alright” or the “try-that-and-die” stare. Basically, you learn the
sign language automatically.
Stealing is the worst crime
Growing
up with a Nigerian mother, you learn that all sins are not the same. Some sins
are greater than the others and one of worst of them all is “stealing”.
Stealing is worse than any other crime you might commit as in the case where
you are found guilty, you find yourself automatically "returned to factory
settings" with the nearest available whip.
Every action has a consequence
With
Nigerian mothers, you most certainly learnt that every action, no matter how
insignificant, has a consequence. You do something great, she pampers you and
rewards you with tender care, but you do something ignoble, she chastises you
accordingly. Even in cases where you suffer grave consequences as a result of
what you have done, she most likely won’t help you come out of it or heal, so
that next time you know not to do it again. In some cases, when someone comes
to lay a complaint against you, she chastises you publicly and may even tell an
outsider to flog you next time you do such.
School and church is priority
Nigerian mothers, especially the educated ones take school and
religion very seriously. In their eyes, school is more important than anything else
in life, the first thing you have to do is study and the rest are details.
Church is also equally important, and so, you cannot miss church service or
prayers on any given day. Nigerian mothers will almost always try to impact
religion in you, and in the case your father and mother hold dissimilar views,
it's usually more likely that you follow mum. Again, you cannot argue with her
about religion or get too liberal.
Family is the most important thing in the
world
This
is a lesson you learn very quickly when you have a Nigerian mom and you are not
the only child. Older kids are expected to take care of younger kids and if the
mum comes back to find an unpleasant situation, the whipping is communally
shared by all kids. Sometimes, even when you are the only child, she still
teaches you to have great regard for extended family, no matter how awful they
are.
Anyone can be your enemy
Nigerian mothers can be
paranoid when it comes to safety. They teach you at an early age not to trust
anyone as you do not know what they have in mind against you. From folk tales
to real life stories and demonstrations they impress in your mind that anyone
literally can be your enemy and you always have to be on your guard and involve
God in everything.
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