Sex Before Marriage Shouldn't Be A Sin

By Hafeez Onitilo
This article represents the ideas of the writer.

Sex before marriage shouldn’t be a sin if dating before marriage is not a sin and my argument is this, The goal of every true love relationship is marriage because it is logically and universally acknowledges that before marriage, a form of courtship is required.
This courtship gives you the chance to know more about each other’s feelings and attitude and also to know if you guys are compatible.  Now having that in mind it is safe to say that dating is a platform that gives us the opportunity to experience love and have a feel of what being married could look like. In every sincere relationship the ultimate goal is to get married that's why we try as hard as we can to make these relationships work.  Most of what that happens in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is what will happen when you get married just that by then it should be a lot easier because you guys would have known and understood yourselves better.

For example being a boy friend nowadays means you have a girl that you love and adore, someone that makes you happy when you think of her and you are willing to give her anything she needs just to show how much you love her. For a husband, it means you have to love and cherish your wife, provide for her needs and also spend the rest of your life with her. Being a wife requires you to love and respect your husband and also stand by him when things are going rough and as a girlfriend you are to make your boyfriend happy showing him how much he means to you by respecting him and also stand by him when things are tough. I guess you can see the similarity, so it is logically safe to say that those that happen to be good girlfriends might turn out to be good wives and those that are good husband must have probably been good boyfriends. 

Now my question is this, if we acknowledge courtship as a platform where we get to experience love before marriage then why can’t we also have sex before marriage as much as we are courting or dating? Sex is a very important aspect of marriage as a matter of fact a marriage that doesn’t have a good sexual integration might just happen to collapse, so I think it is safe to practice sex while dating so as to know what to expect when you get married, remember they say practice makes perfection. Courtship is an essential step to marriage so it is only logicaL that practicing sex which is also an essential part of marriage while dating should be acknowledge and not regarded as a sin.